"Being right is highly overrated.
Even a stopped clock is right twice a day" - Unknown
There is a constant pressure in today's so-called 'civilised society' to feeling that you must be right all the time.
Perfectionism is a trait that some aim for while others are striving to let go of, or at least to ease up on themselves. It can be crippling, always striving to be 100% in whatever we do.
* As a ‘Virgo’ in the Zodiac myself, I found that perfectionism is a strong trait, along with being responsible.
* As a ‘Tiger’ in the Chinese Zodiac, I seem to possess the need to strive harder to make progress
* In the Five Energies the main dominant energies [ I have 2 equal] I have Metal and Earth [to find out yours take the Vitality Test here] .
Metal energy types are 'brilliant at spotting everything that hasn't been done, taken care of, or finished', while Earth energy types 'keep the show on the road with everything and everyone looked after and on board"
Luckily for me there are lots of other "traits" in amongst all that, as I don't think I could cope with all the pressure...
Also luckily for every one of us - we all have the ability to harness whatever traits we feel in need of to help us get through, whether it is about changing ourselves or taking on board and working with partners, colleagues, friends etc.
Being a Control Freak doesn't workWanting too much certainty leads to emotional insecurity: "I must know whether they really love me!" or "I must know 100% they will never leave me!" This is an awful lot of pressure to place upon yourself, your own mental and emotional health.
It's better to learn to relax with life's uncertainties. And when this happens, you become much less likely to be conned by people who seem to promise certainty where it doesn't apply (pyramid schemes, anyone?).
"Whatever happens, I'll probably manage okay" is much healthier and more useful than "I must know everything will be exactly as I imagine it should be!" Seeing life in simplistic all-or-nothing ways (success/failure, good/bad, right/wrong) springs from too much uncontrolled emotion, but also causes it. Learning to relax regularly and see the shades of grey is vital for self-development.
So often, what seems like bad luck in the short-term leads to good outcomes and vice versa, which is why not requiring short-sighted harsh conditions from life and relaxing with or at least tolerating uncertainty is so important. People who are said to be 'cool' (above and beyond the superficialities of their dress, appearance, or mannerisms) are said to have sang-froid, composure, self-possession, calmness, open-mindedness, and/or 'grace under fire'. Being open to what might be or is, rather than demanding what we imagine must or should be helps us connect with reality better.
None of this means you have to be a passive consumer of life or just accept what happens to you. The best kind of person, I think, will be proactive in trying to shape the life they want, but also be able to roll with the waves and swim rather than be drowned when calm waters get choppy. In this way, they are much more likely to get to their destination - which may be very different from what they'd imagined, but they can adapt to that, as well.